YOU MUST…
Be Realistic
Don’t over-exaggerate your ex’s good points and under-acknowledge their bad. Do not put your ex on a pedestal!
The funny thing about being ‘dumped’ is that we unconsciously build up our ex’s worth in our minds. We start to make them into better beings than they really are, erroneously making them to be more powerful and ‘needed’ influences in our lives. Unfortunately, while we are building them up to Higher Power status in our minds, they are ripping our worth to shreds in order to find the strength to leave us.
Accept It
Accept that the breakup did occur and that the relationship is over. By refusing to accept this you are only lengthening the grief process. You cannot keep a relationship alive in your ‘head’ by denying the breakup occurred, or by thinking about the relationship and rehashing things over and over. Whether you accept it or not the facts still remain: You have broken up. The relationship is over. And you will be okay. I promise you!
Put ‘You’ First
If you don’t find value in you, who will? Pamper and love yourself first and foremost. This is not the time to turn your back on you, but rather a time to embrace you. God made your arms just long enough to embrace yourself. Try it. No one is looking! Go ahead and put your arms around you and give yourself a huge, cradling hug! Of all the people in your life, you are the only one that will never abandon you.
Write Your Thoughts Down
Start your own personal journal about your journey from your heartbreak to ‘better-than-ever’. I know one man who kept a record of his breakup by posting on the Lifted Hearts break up board at http://liftedhearts.com , starting from his devastating beginning days, to his healed and in love again days, and then turned them into an awesome book of self-discovery and hope. You can find a great source made specifically for journaling through your breakup with the book, My Breakup Keepsake , found at http://mybreakupkeepsake.com .
Forgive Him or Her
Find forgiveness for your ex – and for yourself . It is impossible to heal without forgiveness. Understand that your ex isn’t looking to hurt you, but rather looking to find his or her own happiness.
-there’s a part two. just wait. 
